tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35560615673764245942024-02-18T20:55:57.637-08:00The Returned LifeAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01500545572359014429noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3556061567376424594.post-79039562793776583802015-03-15T21:18:00.000-07:002015-03-15T21:18:03.207-07:00Life sometimes gives you lemons.<span style="color: #00b0f0; font-family: 'Arial Black', sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;">I just want to express my
appreciation for all of those who read and/or comment on my blog. I'm really
glad you were able to have a small glimpse of my perspective and thoughts. Once
again my only hope to come from writing this blog is not to bring glory to
myself, but to maybe shed some light and different ideas or thoughts. And
Hopefully you can benefit from reading it or else there would be no purpose.</span><br />
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are times in our lives where we just can not and will not understand the bigger
picture of things. This week has been one of those for me. Many don't know, but
this week on Wednesday I got in a car accident and pretty much totaled my car.
Thanks to divine protection I came out without a scratch. This was a very
emotional moment because I am one to that likes to understand and in this
situation I could not understand why. My family has had a great deal of
problems with vehicles very recently and this couldn't have come at a more
worse time. I guess the saying goes "When it rains, it pours". It's
usually tragic events like these where the story begins on how this was some
kind of wake up call to their lives, but it's hard to receive a wake up call
when you are honestly doing the things that have been commanded and that you
know you are suppose to do. What did come was a reminder of a principle that I
must have forgotten about. There are 2 types of trials that come in life, those
that come as consequence to our actions and those that come because it's life.
There are those that we can control and those that we have no control over.
Life always gives us lessons that need to be learned.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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this point it got me back to thinking about marriage, I know I know you'll
probably get tired of hearing about it, but hey these are the struggles of a
returned missionary. So what is marriage? A commitment between a man and a
woman? A piece of paper makes it legit by law or an ordinance that you go
through with your spouse? I've come to a simple conclusion that it is, love. We
make a very strong commitment with someone to prove our love and devotion for
this person. Now there is something very unique aspect about love that makes it
very different. It involves the free agency of two different people. There is
one thing that each and everyone of us has and that is free agency. This is the
ability for us to make our own choices. That is a gift God gave us that not
even He will take away from us. Now as a missionary you quickly gain a
love/hate relationship with this "free agency", because you would
love for everyone to listen to the Gospel, gain a testimony, get baptized and
live the gospel faithfully for the rest of their lives. But unfortunately not
everyone sees the Gospel as something that will benefit them and will bring
happiness to their lives, so they choose not to listen. And as a missionary
it's so hard to see someone, a child of God, that you don't even know but yet
you feel love and compassion for them, reject something that you know will
bring them happiness. Let me tell you it is rough, but you soon realize you can
only do YOUR best to share it with them and if they choose to reject it, that
it is okay because they have that choice to make. Even when you have seen the
blessings in your life and the lives of others and you know what a blessing it
could be to their lives, you have to let them choose. I realized that this
applies directly with "love". Love is a choice that two people make
and it can not be forced. It doesn't matter how perfect you think you are for
each other or how perfect you think you are for him/her, if it is not a choice
both of you make it will not work healthily. The most difficult is when you
make that choice, but the other person does not. It becomes very hard to accept
at times because as human beings we do not like to fail and in moments like
these you feel like you have failed. It took me awhile to apply what I had
learned in the mission to my real life because until recently I came to accept
that it is not a failure because it was something they used their free agency
on and there is nothing you can do about it. Now I know I'm not married nor am
I in love, so maybe I'm all wrong and I really don't know anything. But I do
know that love is one of those things in life we can't control. Maybe that is
why after being home after a year I am still not married because it has been
something this past year that I have been trying to force happen because I know
that's what I should do. Maybe I should just listen to what everyone says
"It will come". At times I feel like I can't just sit here and wait,
I have to actively pursue because I am so scared of just becoming too focused
on school and my career that I will then over-look the opportunities to find
love. It think if anything it is just another moment where I am walking blindly
and the only thing I can do is put my trust in Heavenly Father to lead me to
happiness and success. He knows best. And actually He knows everything. Which
sparks the question if He is THE MOST trustworthy person to exist, why do we so
often struggle putting our trust in Him? Just food for thought. I love you all.
Thank you once again for reading. Feel free to comment or give feedback on
anything you would like. No judgement zone.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01500545572359014429noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3556061567376424594.post-20573832482423033712015-03-08T22:27:00.002-07:002015-03-08T22:27:58.674-07:00The 1 year anniversary!<span style="background-color: black;"><span style="color: #eeeeee;"><br /></span></span>
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not exactly the best writer or the most creative mind out there, but these are
just stories from my point of view being a returned missionary. I'm not trying
to glorify myself, just trying to better express who I am.</span><span style="font-family: 'Arial Black', sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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mission in Veracruz, Mexico. And the saying is true, those were the absolute
best 2 years of my entire life. But what many don't know is that the year that
has followed has probably been the hardest year of my life. Maybe I'm the only
one that thinks life after the mission is hard or maybe there are many others
that feel the same. Let me first tell you what an amazing experience it was to
be of this world, but not apart of it for 2 years. </span><span style="font-family: 'Arial Black', sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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you love so much. Imagine not being distracted by social media, television,
computers, movies and cell phones. Imagine knowing that there is nothing better
that you could be doing with your life at that moment and being 100% sure that,
that is where you should be. Imagine waking up every single day knowing that
you were going to be able to change someone's life. Imagine being able to
dedicate all day every day to sharing love and kindness with every person you
come into contact with. Imagine that the only thing you were stressed about is
how you were going to be able to help out people that you loved so much.
Imagine knowing that as you put yourself, your worries, your problems and your
thoughts behind you to serve others, you were going to become a better person.
Imagine being a literal representative of the most perfect man to walk on this
earth, Jesus Christ. This is only a small fraction of the joy that comes out of
those 2 years.</span><span style="font-family: 'Arial Black', sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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your fly time runs out and everything comes to a screeching halt for you to
realize it is time to go back to reality. The time comes that you have to come
home and it's a love/hate relationship with that decision because you love your
family that has not seen you for 2 years, but you hate to leave this new family
that you have grown to love. As the time ticks down and you say your good-byes
to these people and missionaries who have become your brothers and sisters and to
an amazing couple that have become your 2nd set of parents. They have guided,
uplifted, motivated, and strengthened you in the hardest of times. </span></span></div>
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the plane only to realize that it is all over. The last 2 years of your life
literally felt like a dream. They flew by faster than a blink of an eye.
Reality sets in as you are on the airplane just imagining what it will be like
to see your family all over again. The questions start in your head, Who will
be there? Will they look different? What will be the first food I eat? Will I
recognize my family members? As we landed in Salt Lake City, the dream was over
and reality set in, I'm really home. I'm not a missionary anymore. It takes
awhile to accept because you have become so accustom to living this life that
you didn't know any other way of life.</span><span style="font-family: 'Arial Black', sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #3d85c6;"><span style="font-family: 'Arial Black', sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;">I remember it was 6:45 p.m. another missionary and I had
just been on flights and lay overs for over 13 hours. We left at 6:05 a.m. and
went back in hour in time zones. We walked through the airport with undecided
anticipation. As we come down the escalator I see my mother, my step-dad, my
step-sister, my brother-in-law, and my grandma in a wheel chair. The escalator
felt like it was going in slow-mo. We walked towards are families and as we are
entering in the luggage pick-up room, this person came from the side of me and
hugged me. I had absolutely no idea who it was. It was only about 15 minutes
later I half way accepted that, that was my little brother, who wasn't so
little anymore. Of course what followed was lots of hug and tears and catching
up as they all made fun of my new found Mexican Accent.</span><span style="font-family: 'Arial Black', sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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what happens after that. But fast forward a year later and there hasn't been a
day that has gone by that I don't remember those amazing experiences and
amazing people I met. The first question you ask yourself when you come home
is, what now? Will I go to school? Where will I go to school? What will I do?
Do I get a job? Where should I apply? After things settle down and you get some
of those things figured out an even more serious question starts to come to
mind, Marriage?. Now before you start criticizing the typical Mormon idea of
getting married so quickly, let me tell you my perspective on the subject. And
believe me, before my mission I criticized the returned missionaries that would
get married 6 months after being home. But after living 2 years side by side a
companion, having someone around you literally 24/7, and being around someone
you share the same intentions with; it becomes something you like to have. So
upon returning from my mission, the first few weeks were rough because I didn't
have a companion. I felt extremely weird going anywhere alone. I felt a little
alone because there was no one around that I had that deep of relationship
with, no one that I could share my thoughts and feelings with that would
understand what is going on. It was then that I realized why missionaries get
married so soon after being home from their missions. You want someone with
whom you can share your interests, goals, desires, thoughts and feelings. Of
course everyone will tell you to live up the single life while you can and I
understand that, but why not get started on your life and have someone to go
through that with you? Apart from that the Presidency of the Church of Jesus
Christ of Latter-day Saints and the Apostles have advised to get married before
you become to focused on your career or education. I know it seems kind of
radical, but my perspective on it is; How much more focused and how much more
can you accomplish in your career and education, if you don't have to worry
about the opposite sex and dating because you are already married. And apart
from that how great would it be to have someone there 24/7 for you, supporting
and encouraging you through your education and career? Now I'm not trying to
convert you or persuade you on getting married early, I'm just helping you see
it through my eyes. For me, this has been the real struggle knowing what has been
counseled, trying to follow it and not being able to reach it. The one thing
that will always motivate me and I hope can motivate you, is that God loves
each and everyone of us and He his plan for us is perfect. He will do
everything in his own time. We just have to give Him our hand so He can lead us
to reach our full potential that we can not see. I love you all and Thank you
for taking your time to read this. I would love any comments or feedback.</span><span style="font-family: 'Arial Black', sans-serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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